the descent into self harm is frightening
you start so small
&
fall to depths you hadn’t imagined existed.
i began scratching my wrists.
just pulling away the skin with my fingers nails.
tiny little patches of skin.
it was enough to offer some relief
for a little while
soon
i had to draw blood
the entire surface of my wrist became an open sore
i could never allow it to heal
never leave it alone.
the wounds began to creep up my arm
until wrist to elbow was raw
still very superficial
just enough to bleed, to hurt.
of course the need grows
“enough” doesn’t actually exist.
the problem is
you don’t discover that until it’s too late.
and,
so,
i moved onto knives.
kitchen knives at first
until people started to notice they were missing
until the questions started
then i started to buy my own
cherishing a growing collection under my mattress.
the hoarding commenced
i needed to purchase any knife that appeared useful
i had to keep the blooded rags.
i procured a special wicker box to store morbid collection
by this time i was sawing at my forearm.
just over and over until the blood was sufficient
&
i felt calm.
still not deep
not dangerous
very soon it was not enough.
i can’t remember why the thought occurred,
but
i know where i was when it popped into my head
on a bus, returning from stirling.
RAZOR BLADES
it made my stomach fizz
part fear, part excitement.
and,
so,
when i stepped off that bus i headed straight to boots.
i used standard disposable ladies razors.
the type you’d shave your legs with
no one would wonder why i was buying them
or find their existence in my flat strange.
i’d stockpile.
buying packs in every shop that sold them
&
spend hours on the sofa pulling the razors from their plastic holders.
filling little boxes with shiny, sharp razors
making sure i always had one ready when i might need it.
razors provided a new level of control
i could be precise
they were sharper
i could cut deeper in a single swipe
i lost a lot more blood
i felt said satisfied
i applied more and more pressure
creating deeper gashes
there was so much blood
it was a huge rush
i felt like everything was washing away in that crimson tide.
the frequency grew
the number of cuts rocketed
i began to run out of space on my arm
i moved to my right forearm,
upper arms,
thighs
i needed fresh skin
i needed an outlet
i needed more.
i cut daily during that period
it lasted a few years.
hiding it was hard
very few people knew
i was sore all the time
i’d make hundreds of cuts every night.
everything hurt
i’d wake stuck to my sheets with dried blood
bathing stung
clothes rubbed and stuck and nipped
but i couldn’t stop
and i couldn’t stand still.
the next logical step was a scalpel
they are designed to cut skin
i knew i could easily do damage with a scalpel
i found them in an art store in town
real swann & morton scalpels
i didn’t think it would be that easy
i had an amazing cover story
i’d discuss my art projects with the girls in the shop
i had become a really good liar.
i had also become pretty proficient at self harm
the scalpel both terrified & thrilled me
i did consider not using it,
but once the thought is born
there is no escaping it
it sliced through my skin like butter
i could chop myself up in minutes.
the blood was immense
hard to control some times
i had gone from bloodied rags to blood soaked towels
the more blood i lost
the more blood i needed
i had begun to crave bigger cuts
deeper cuts
wider cuts
at that time i had only hrequired stitches once or twice
times when i had lost control
usually in anger
it has scared me.
the a&e experience had been horrendous
i think, subconsciously, part of me was holding back
and,
so,
my cutting stayed stable for a long period
i cut most days
each cut just one strike
pushing as hard as i could
usually just flesh wounds
occasionally i’d slice through to fat.
i cut prolifically
many, many cuts in each session
i began to get ill
i was losing too much blood
i was beginning to pass out during bouts of self harm
i was sometimes sick
it didn’t bother me
i was too far in
i remember around that time filling old perfume bottles with my blood
i had dozens of them
i have no idea why i did it
i don’t know what i got from it
but
i kept them for a long time
until they stank
i really didn’t want to throw them away
i think about my rubbish from that time
if anyone had ever looked at it
everything was covered in blood
my flat was drenched in blood
stains on carpets, bed clothes,furnisher
bloodied hand prints on door handles, light switches, taps
i no longer noticed
it was a very bleak time
i was living for the blood.
i continued in that strain for years
sometimes doing a little better
feeling good
cutting less
living more,
but
always in fear of the storm returning
living under a cloud
and,
then,
one night i cut as usual
i lived here in this flat by then
it must have been about 4yrs ago,
i was cleaning up
putting away my tools
i felt dizzy
and unsatisfied
i sat in my hall
and
began to think
part of me had always felt inadequate
for not going deeper
for not requiring more stitches
i felt i was weak
i couldn’t even do this properly
just like that my mind flicked a switch
i picked up my scalpel and cut into an already open wound
and i kept cutting
for about an hour
until i was through the fat
until i could see blue veins clearly
until the blood started to spurt
until my arm was split open like soft fruit
i didn’t think i was capable of wreaking such destruction
i had believed i couldn’t & wouldn’t go that far
but i can
and
i do.
every cut i make is on that scale now
i can not go back
i am forever seeking more
i want each cut to “better” the last
they all need stitched
i rarely go
i keep them clean & let them heal
see a dr if they get infected.
two years ago i was admitted to hospital as they thought i was on the verge of a a heart attack
i was kept in for two days
on a heart monitor & oxygen
i was diagnosed with angina
my haemoglobin levels are so low that there is simply not enough oxygen getting to my heart.
i faint almost daily
i experience extreme chest pain
i am always out of breath
always cold
always ill.
i still cut
i still lose vast amounts of blood
i know what i doing to myself
and,
yet,
i can not stop
self harm has a grip on me
self harm controls my life
it is who i am
what i do
how i survive.
how i wish i hadn’t;
scratched that little patch of skin.
hidden those knives
bought those razors
found that scalpel
lost control.